WHAT ARE YOU GOING THROUGH by Sigrid Nunez

Like her novel The Friend, this Sigrid Nunez novel addresses the death of, yes, a friend.  This time the death is planned but has not happened yet.  The narrator agrees to stay with her terminally-ill friend in the final days before the friend takes a euthanasia pill.  This book takes not only a very thoughtful look at the death of a person, but one character, who turns out to be the narrator’s “ex,” crusades to warn that the death of our planet is not only imminent but unavoidable—so much so that he laments the upcoming birth of his third grandchild.  Despite this maudlin subject matter, the narrator regales us with such funny reflections and remembrances that we forget to be sad.  There are so many great stories scattered throughout this novel, including one ostensibly about the cat on the cover and one about an elderly woman who tries to reform the scammers who constantly call her.  Although the narrator’s ex paints a gloom-and-doom portrait of humanity as being too stupid to save their own planet, the narrator reminds us that empathy and compassion still exist and that being there for someone can be fulfilling yet all-consuming.  Ultimately, the narrator’s anxiety moves away from the loss of her friend and on to the aftermath, in which she is expected to lie about her complicity in her friend’s euthanasia plan.  At one point the narrator notes that even a sad movie can be uplifting if the story is told in a beautiful way.  That same observation applies to this novel.